Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Mitt's Collapse 2/2

He is facing the very real possibility of being worthless, of failure—his greatest fear. The recent video of him disparagingly talking about the 47% is a direct manifestation of his hidden complaint that he is “a superior person, but other people are jealous of him.”

The major problem with Mitt is that he can't help but be contradictory. All people are, but he does it without realizing it. He genuinely seeks acceptance and tries to endear himself to each person he speaks to. This causes him to adapt his self-image and positions—subtly at first, and then more blatantly later—to try to accomplish his goals. This isn't unique to Mitt, he just has the unfortunate position of being under constant media scrutiny.

Essentially, he seeks validation as a way of feeling self-worth—not inherently wrong or unique. It is the degree to which he has been pulled down this rabbit hole. He is now stuck in the position of not receiving external validation and not having a true sense of self-worth. And he has plenty of value. He is a generous donor to many charities, a role model for many Americans, and he has accomplished many great things such as healthcare in Massachusetts.

My prescription for him is not new. In fact, many people have been saying this for a long time. Be more authentic. If Mitt were to tap into his true feelings and have his convictions come from within he would benefit not just politically but personally as well. In his Univision speech he mentioned how his family came to the US and used government assistance to get on their feet. There was a lot of tension in that statement. But more to the point there wasn't any emotion. His story is deeply touching and deserves the emotional weight that it obviously carries for him.

And acknowledge his limits. If Mitt were to acknowledge that there were some things/issues he wasn't completely informed on I'd guess that it would garner far more respect than his “shoot first, aim later” attitude to the election.

The hardest thing is the very nature of a campaign. Campaign staff conceal a candidate from the harsh reality of the trail. It is a constant ego boost, a soothing and deluding of the limits of one man. At some point the candidate inevitably starts to believe that they can achieve anything if only they win. And poor Mitt, under the spell of his campaign staff and his self-protective ego, is collapsing without being able to see it.

But we can. And it's not pretty.

But then again I could be wrong—I hope I am. As much as I disagree with Mitt, I certainly do not wish him any harm and I am very sad to see a man on tv so obviously deflated. The campaign can destroy a man, and we just may be watching it in real time.

**Rachel Maddow Show 9/19/2012
**Understanding the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson